24th January 2011, my cell phone started playing the famous song echoing the words of “ The Climb by Milley Cyrus”: “I can almost see it, that dream I am dreaming, but there’s a voice inside my head saying: “You’ll never reach it” this has become my life motto with everything that has been going on in my life.
Never would I have guessed that when I took the call from my friend that my life was about to change. Her first words weren’t the normal: “Hello, how are you?” but, I think I found you your baby. I was so shocked at her words that I thought it couldn’t have been what she said. Before I could ask her what she was on about she repeated and said that she has someone at the office whose daughter is pregnant and is looking for someone to adopt the little bean.
I started shaking, this couldn’t be, and I was waiting for her to start laughing on the other side and tell me she’s joking. But she didn’t. She asked me if we’d be interested to meet the girl and see if we would want to pursue the opportunity. The only words I got out, in a whisper that I will have to call her back. I had so many emotions going through me, shocked, surprised, scared, and happy all at once. I couldn’t move I stared at my phone in disbelief. Could this be, is this my chance to finally also experience the joy of being a mommy?
I then phoned my husband where I informed him about the call from our friend. He, without a beat, told me to phone her back and tell her we are interested to meet the girl. I went into a panic, are we allowed to do this? Aren’t we suppose to, have a social worker present? What if the girl changes her mind? What if she doesn’t like us? What if we don’t like her? What am I going to say to a girl whose baby I’m going to take away from her and she’ll never see again? Am I ready to meet the girl that might change my life forever?
After speaking to my friend we arranged a meeting with the biological mother and her mother with our mutual friend present for a cup of tea. We had such an open and free discussion, questions was asked on why she wanted to give the baby up for adoption and what kind of people we are. What her terms are when she finds the “perfect” couple for her baby, and what do we expect after the adoption has been finalised. My husband and I left in silence, processing everything that was discussed and the possibility of what might lie just around the corner in our future, individually. After a while I broke the silence and asked him what his thoughts were, he the said we can only pray. That night I didn’t sleep a wink. I prayed and begged and cried to God that if this is His plan that He will make it happen.
The next morning our friend phoned and when I answered she told me that the biological mother, when we left said “that’s “the baby’s” mother and father”. Again in less than 24 hours my heart skipped a beat. I then contacted our social worker where she then shared the joys of the possibility. Our biological mother moved to an institution for pregnant girls where she stayed until the birth of our little one. This was a choice made by her mother and herself, and her social worker that she approached.
Proven Fact – Never underestimate the power and success of word to mouth. If my friend didn’t know that we are exploring option to adopt we would most probably still have been waiting.
27th February 2011, I had to do a pregnancy test as like every other month I started to have pregnancy symptoms. I just did the test so I could get my prescription the next day from the doctor for my meds to sooth “the problem” until next time, I even knew before I did the test that it’s negative. Surprise-Surprise when it immediately started to show two lines? This wasn’t possible, I phoned my Fertility specialist at 6:30am on the Sunday morning and told him, where he told me to go do the bloods and tell them to mark it as urgent for his attention. Less than two hours later he phoned confirming the pregnancy. My husband and I couldn’t believe that we will be going from two to four in less than a year, after a five year wait.
The following morning I phoned our biological mother’s social worker to inform her of our news, where she dreadfully told me that we won’t be able to proceed with the adoption. I was in shocked and cried and could understand why this is happening, as our first born is due any week and now the little bean growing in my might not have a big sister to play with. I went into survival mode as I normally do and when I couldn’t reach our social worker, I started to phone around trying to figure out what to do. I contacted Sharon where she told me to phone her Social worker and they advised me that it’s not the social worker to decide but the biological mother. I then emailed my social worker telling her what’s going on and within a few hours I got the email stating that she has spoken to the social worker and the social worker has told our biological mother and that she is absolutely thrilled to hear that her baby, our baby, won’t grow up alone.
15th March 2011 our baby girl was born, and 6 hours later we laid her down in her crib at home staring into the little innocent face thanking God for the most precious gift he could ever have given us.
Our second miracle arrived on the 11th October 2011.
I can gladly report that even though the two girls are still so young and small they are absolutely inseparable and love each other so much, we call them our almost twins.