Sadly, our journey to conceive was one filled with much heartache, and after having endured a few bouts of ART, losing 4 babies in the first trimester and having to go through countless hours in therapy; we decided at the end of 2009 to adopt.
It was, for us, a major decision to reach the point of wanting to adopt. I had not wanted to give up on my own body’s “abilities”, but I realized that we had reached the end of our road and that this was the journey we were meant to take. That said, I would never, ever change the 9-year long battle we endured while trying to conceive.
We were among the fortunate couples to have had a short wait, once we were confirmed as having been on the adoption database / waiting list. A mere 4 months after all our preparations to become adoptive parents had been finalized, we received “the call”.
It is a moment I will never, in my whole life, forget. I will no doubt, be asked to tell it over and over again. I do still battle to find the right words to describe the moment, but to say that it was surreal would be the closest description I could come up with.
Needless to say, family and friends were just as emotional as we were when we relayed our news to them.
The week following “the call”, was an utter whirlwind while I prepared – in every sense of the word – for Isabella’s arrival! I had no idea that once we were chosen to be birth parents, we’d have our baby so quickly – in our case, it was 1 week from having been placed, to Isabella’s birth!
We were not present for her birth, but met her when she was just 2 hours old. I doubled over with tears and emotion and couldn’t take my eyes off my new baby daughter when they wheeled her in to our private ward; nor could I put her down – cuddling her, kissing her, smelling her for hours and reveling in the fact that this was the moment I had been waiting for my entire life.
Isabella is now 20 months old and literally every day I thank my lucky stars, the universe and the Gods for this precious, precious gift of ours.
Suffice it to say, our Birth Mom will always be cherished by us and we will ensure that Isabella is raised to know the very special and unique love that her BM had for her.
Adoption comes with its ups and downs, fears and concerns, but the fact is that it is a beautiful journey and I feel incredibly blessed to be on it.
For more on Lisa-Marie and her beautiful family, you can read her blog, To Love Bella.